Charles Stanley | – Struggling with sexual sin (Ask Dr. Stanley)

Dr. Charles Stanley answers an email from a Christian man who is struggling with sexual sin. In Touch Ministries, 2011.

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Comment (45)

  1. I love that fight your battles on your knees pt…I'm gonna use it from now on…thanks again Dr Stanley I've been listening to you since I was in high school and you've always had a powerful message from God of Deliverance and healing… awesomeness

  2. Pray for my 20 year old daughter. I pray to my God, the God of Abraham and through the power of Jesus blood that save me , for her to surrenders to our God. Pray for her to allow God to guide her out of confusion.

  3. What helped me in my sexual sin was to first get more into the word and meditate more on verses pertaining to my struggle and started seeking God more, praying more, believing his word over the Devil's lies that he kept putting in my head. Satan will make you believe that you cannot change and your'e too weak. Talk back to Satan, rebuke hin in Jesus name and say Yes I may be weak but through God I am strong in Jesus name. Speak scriptures of strength over self daily! Don't give up or give in to Satan. Tell yourself you have a mind of Christ. Greater is he in you than he that is in the world and ps 55:10 is one of my favorites. "Create in me a clean heart oh God and renew a right spirit within me." YOU ARE STRONG AND COURAGEOUS AND CAN RESIST THE DEVIL'S LIES. As soon as you believe that Satan will back down . SUBMITTING yourself to Christ first will make the enemy flee but remember it's a daily walk. God will strengthen you but you must believe who you are in Christ and not what you are in flesh.

  4. Please pray for me I keep doing sexual sin like looking at women lustfully ect I keep praying and telling god I won't and don't want to slip up anymore but I end slippi g please pray I break it for the rest of my mortal life

  5. As a believer in Jesus Christ. I have been saved for 8yrs , and I have struggle with the same sin over and over again ,many times I have repented and cry out for forgiveness, but I still end up doing the same thing. Am tied of this sinful life .

  6. I'd like to offer some encouragement. I struggled with the same problem as this man. The LORD does know our heart, and He revealed to me that we open ourselves up to dangerous things spiritually when we choose to masturbate. When pornography is involved and we look at a person (or persons) with lust, we are comitting adultery. When the LORD revealed to me how much it grieved Him when I did this, that was the last time I did it. Now when I am tempted I quote 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 and the devil flees from me. "Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body and your spirit, which are God's"

  7. That man that wrote that letter is a sweetheart. The poor man. Sexual struggles of any nature are the same for all of us. After we give into it the pleasure is for just a moment and then the disgust of ourselves. I will pray for you. God changes our desires we will not crave those things anymore. The trouble is once we've been there and we think about it even for just a second our heart starts to beat fast and quickly we are taking to the slaughter of pornography. isn't it amazing how the closer you walk with God the more you're sexually tempted. I couldn't even listen to stuff with Sodom and Gomorrah it actually turned me on. I have to live inside my awful mine and wretched heart. That's sick I feel like I am not right to even have ever enjoy any kind of taboo.

  8. I’ve also heard there is a withdrawal period, what the brain and body go thru from this. It sounds like it’s one of the most destructive and dangerous sins to mess with, lots of spirits involved. I would say consistent, persistent professional Christian counsel on this, accountability, support, fervent prayer and bible reading. This is so hard for me to write as a woman since I’m going thru this with my husband and it has destroyed me and us. It’s hurts you, the person you’re in a relationship with and god. Walk in the spirit and not in the flesh. One has to stay super close to God and have a lot of support I would think. It all comes down to why do you want to change and how bad you want it too. Like with any sin. This also prolly is a heart check matter I would say as well. Who is more important, us? Or disobeying God. He gave us the scriptures to fight but I get any long standing sin is hard becuz you’re fighting a bigger spiritual battle. Distract distract distract, with things of the word, not of the world, don’t let yourself be put in vulnerable situations. Pray pray pray and get others involved and check out affair recovery on YouTube, they have some good videos, when it comes down to it, only god knows your true heart, don’t try to fool yourself, him or others, own it and go after it. Spirit over flesh.

  9. I have the same problem as Ed. I have no idea how to help get rid of it! Does anybody have any advice for me? I am Christian, I have been for some time now. But I have been taking into this for the last year. I have tried so many times to stop, but I find myself falling back into the same old trap.

  10. I've been there done that started off young and this will destroy your life don't think it wont!! It almost did mine But Jesus helped me to see it for what it is and is helping me to overcome it you have to be a yielding person Jesus will set you free stop fighting Him and trust Him you cant do it on your own trust me I've tried numerous times and failed every time! You Have to trust Jesus and His Grace and Mercy It wont be easy but it can be done just Dont quit trying!!! you have so much to gain and everything to lose!!
    God Bless!

  11. CS Lewis on sexual sin. if you are a poor creature–poisoned by a wretched up-bringing in some house full of vulgar jealousies and senseless quarrels–saddled, by no choice of your own, with some loathsome sexual perversion–nagged day in and day out by an inferiority complex that makes you snap at your best friends–do not despair. He knows all about it. You are one of the poor whom He blessed. He knows what a wretched machine you are trying to drive. Keep on. Do what you can. One day He will fling it on the scrap-heap and give you a new one. And then you may astonish us all – not least yourself: for you have learned your driving in a hard school.”

  12. I'm tormented by sexual sin, lust for women. Please pray for me to be set free/delivered.

    I'm so tired of giving in, I truly want a pure heart and mind.

    This constant battle is wearing me down physically and emotionally.

    I want it to stop❗

  13. Thanks Bro Stanley for giving God’s standard of pornography! Can you please address sexual activities between an unmarried Christian couple? Usually men believe that being unmarried is a license to enjoy sex with any unmarried female. I know that most will respect Scripture you quote especially now when the world relaxes God’s commands!

  14. I am a believer but for over 20 years i fell away and fell into sin mainly sexual and hardened my heart to G-d yet He still was faithful to me. Recently i turned my life back to Him and was so happy. However i am with someone who is divorced and i am divorced and we have been together over 6 years and now i feel condemnation all the time. I love her but if i married her it would be considered adultery but if i didn't marry her it would be adultery too. I can't win. I love her too much to end it and it's hard to know what to do for the best as i do want to walk with G-d.

  15. I’ve been saved for about 6 months and I’m still struggling with lust and a inappropriate mind. I have abstain from pornography and masturbation for a while now and don’t struggle with it. The only thing I’m struggling is lust and a inappropriate mind. I’m desperate and desiring with all my heart for this pain to end. I ask nicely if you guys can pray for me.

  16. Dr Stanley
    The present word is we HAVE the request
    God just made that clear to me
    I have the victory today I just fail to believe I do therefore I don’t act in accordance to the belief and truth and reality of his WORD which is truth!
    The devil is a liar
    And the man who sent the email I empathize with because I too have struggled with sexual sin for eleven months now and I have all but nearly beat myself to death in every sense of the word over it because I believed til this moment at 7:08 am that unless I quit the sin I won’t have freedom and am stuck in bondage
    God has already delivered us from all sin and from this I believe with all of us
    The problem isn’t him not doing something but that we don’t fully believe that during the moment we are faced with a choice to sin or not
    If I believe I’m bound I will act in bondage
    If I believe I’m free then I know when tempted again I can take captive that lie that exults itself against god and replace it with the two edged sword speaking this scripture into my current reality which is that I have been delivered from the powers of darkness and there is no sin in me because of what Christ did on the cross and that gods wrath was already poured upon his son for my sins
    Every single battle we have starts as a lie implanted by Satan or self
    We have to align our thoughts with the truth and reality in which god has us in!
    Ty ty ty
    Prayers my brother who struggled
    Past tense
    We have the victory we just walk it out on a day to day moment by moment basis that’s all we have to do! I don’t want to sink I want to keep my eye on Jesus!