John Piper | – Did I Marry the Right Person?


Short answer: look at the name on your marriage certificate.

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  1. I was in a state of confusion , I was considering divorce I cried out to God , and asked Him why He had allowed for me to marry my husband because of the problems we were going through, His response was not what i expected , He said to me , mistake or no mistake do you believe I am the God who raised Lazarus from the dead, do you believe I am the God who said to Jairus daughter little girl arise, i said Yes Lord, He said to me I am the God who raised the dry bones and gave them life. my marriage hasnt been easy but I am hanging onto the word of God and when it gets hard i stand on Him not my feeling. in Jesus name

  2. "Short answer: look at the name on your marriage certificate." So indescribably powerful yet so beautifully simple. 2:15 seconds of my life well spent. Thank you John Piper! I just picked up Don't Waste Your Life this week and can't wait to dive in!

  3. This here is thee TRUE answer to a genuine God established marriage: you both are Christians..male and female" you have been praying for a spouse or husband..you happen to meet a person at church and as you get to know each other.. you ask God for confirmation, if this is the person for you??? God indeed will make it clear..I've seen it happen with my own eyes twice at church,retreat etc..any other way..your on your own!! Divorce rate speaks for itself.

  4. this is almost painful to listen to. I stayed in an incredibly abusive relationship for 7 years, praying and putting trust that it would be okay. it was not. our three children and I had to hide out in a safe house for a week, not allowed to leave until he was found clinically and psychologically stable. before all of this, for the last 3 years of the marriage I prayed every day asking if I should leave and if not help me to find a way to help him. for three years I ignored the 'leave now' and kept trying because I was told God does not do divorce. I also don't think he would want me in a relationship that would end up with me dead and his behavior all out on the children. you should not be encouraging people to stay in abusive relationships, there are exceptions

  5. this is absolutely and unbelievably the most ridiculous thing I ever heard so you thought you married the right person and after 1w years of marriage my wife has an affair so you telling me I must stay married to her please explain yourself

  6. in other words the "Right person" is a believer in Christ that will share the same values with you which God can use to propel you both towards a fruitful destiny. An unbeliever will always mount spiritual friction in the pattern in which a christian should live.

  7. This is a simplification of a complex topic, but it's essencialy true. For clarifications on specific situations I recommend to all the people with questions here to read "Love must be tough" by James Dobson. Best effort to give guidance on the matter that I know.

  8. I think we can have the assurance that John Piper was not at all talking about abusive relationships. Piper is also friends with known pastor Matt Chandler, who talks a lot about marriage and how he got through the first 5 years of his marriage which were awful years for him, and Matt Chandler said in several sermons that abusive relationships are not acceptable. Matt Chandler got some help from counseling, and eventually he and his wife got through it and are very happy right now. Abusive relationships are another topic and abuse is not acceptable to the Lord.

  9. Why do people get married with unbelievers I understand it must be hard to find a partner that shares your same faith.. I answered my own question. "It will create problems in the near future."

  10. I think in some ways the church today, and christians in general, make a huge deal about being equals in faith and all sorts of qualifications. I do firmly believe that you should marry a fellow believer but that they have to be on an equal faith level seems to be getting a bit too picky. So now, we have generations of super picky Christian women and some men that aren't getting married because they haven't found the 'PERFECT' half.

  11. What about divorce though? My Mum and Dad divorced and my Mum and Dad are still alive, so that's not till death due us part because my Mum remarried another guy. So how does that situation work????

  12. Some marriage are not from God. I know someone, the Lord told her five times " no" when she asked God before marrying her husband, but she did it, and now endures an awful life trapped in this marriage God didn't want for her.

  13. Aman! You are totally right!

    Here's more from 1 Corinthians:
    “But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.” 1 Corinthians 7:15 KJV

    If the unbelieving, or unsaved husband or wife, then becomes unhappy with their saved spouse, he or she is able to divorce the saved spouse without it being a penalty to the saved spouse or his or herself.

    A lot of times, an unbelieving spouse will no longer be content with the spouse that gets saved, especially in cases where neither were saved when they got married.

  14. I didn't know this before, so what should I do , my marriage( if I can call it that, because he left) because I know the power of words today , I would not dare to right the right adjective ( qualified word) but you all can guess.

  15. YOU JOHN PEPPER ARE PROMOTING LEGALISM TO VULNERABLE WOMEN AND MEN WHO ARE IN ABUSIVE MARRIAGES AND ARE PRAYING TO GOD EARNESTLY FOR APPROVAL OF DIVORCE.
    YOU JOHN PEPPER NEED TO SEEK DELIVERANCE AND HEALING FROM LEGALISM BECAUSE WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS PUTTING GOD IN A BOX.

    MY BIBLE SAYS DONT BE UNEQUIVOCALLY YOKED WITH UNBELIEVER! (WHAT FELLOWSHIP HAS DARKNESS WITH LIGHT)DOES YOURE BIBLE SAYS THAT JOHN PEPPER?

  16. God grant divorces when the one of the spouses die pass away or commit adultery I wonder if that's because it wasn't a hesitation nor problem in divorce court because the ex husband committed and didn't comprehend that his tongue I meant his infidelity God's grace and mercy

  17. Marry GOD first , in the sense just seek him .Love for a wife never lasts long , sad but true . A wife who is your best friend lasts forever . Let GOD be your best friend , all of our earthly desires eventually die in AGE. Let GOD be your strength for seeking love and let your wife do the same , thats when GOD brings you closer to him.

  18. What do I do if my husband has thrown our marriage away & has been committing adultery for the past 5 years? HE is the one who filed for divorce. I have prayed till I can’t anymore. He hates the Lord & he hates me. What am I supposed to do?

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